For example, I will never forget my junior year of high school. I was on the basketball team and was one of the starting 5 players. Since I am competitive, I always took the game very seriously and wanted to perform at my best with my team. During one game, there was a girl that did everything in her power to make sure I could not dribble, pass, or shoot. More than that, she was obnoxious and being inappropriately aggressive on the court. By the 3rd quarter, I was fed up! So when she had the ball and was going in for a lay-up, I pushed her really hard, to where she fell and twisted her ankle. I got a technical foul (my first and only my entire basketball career). Although that situation would typically be put under my “Regret List”, I used that as a teaching moment. In that moment, I allowed someone to control my emotions so much so that I behaved in a way that was uncharacteristic of me. Although I know that I can’t be perfect, I have done my best to never let something like that happen again.
It would have been easy to have taken my basketball situation and turn it into a regrettable moment. Instead, I chose to learn from it. In the same way, I encourage each of you to think about the times that you wish you could erase. Instead of being ashamed or discouraged by them, think of the lessons you can learn from it. Instead of thinking “I wish I had never done that” ask yourself “What could I do differently next time?” Having freedom from your regrets will take such a weight off your shoulder. You can learn so much from your past to make your future even better!
Continuing to break the stigma,
Miss International 2015